.."Page has the rare ability to bring the spiritual down to earth and apply it to everyday situations. Her writing is clear, and her suggestions are easy to follow." -- Library Journal First paperback edition of major departure from all current books on marriage and relationships. It goes beyond the conventional programs that focus on communication, compromise, collaboration --and offers instead a fresh, new, more simple approach to improving relationships not through what we say to each other, but what we do.She calls for "loving actions", like good will, acting "as if", restraint, balance, acting on your own, acceptance, and compassion--that are effective in providing for the needs of your loved ones and, equally important, for yourself. The author believes that it's not a matter of first solving problems so we can be happy together, but rather first being happy together so we can realize that all of our problems can't be "solved" but are often just facts of life, that will never fundamentally change She shows us how loving actions can honor, support, and nurture our loved ones as they are, help us refrain from being demanding, negative, or critical, stop destructive fighting, be closer to our partners, and allow them to feel closer to us.